Emotionally unstable people fail to see neither do they perceive. They have no opening for light on issues and dealings. Without prior knowledge, they respond in confusion to issues that arouse their emotions. Everything just seem complicated in every stance and this makes them frustrated. They can be likened to the blind.
The blind gropes for the wall, and they grope because they have no eyes: they stumble at noonday and in the night. Without help, they remain in desolate places.
People with fickled emotions grope; trying to feel their way out of the dark. If left alone, they can develop forlorn minds and dismal thoughts. Uncomfortable emotions develop from this state. For example, ”We feel resentful because we think we know what is fair, but other people won’t agree with us”.We believe that what we feel must be true automatically. If we feel stupid and boring, then we must be stupid and boring. You assume that your unhealthy emotions reflect the way things really are — “I feel it, therefore it must be true.” The only way you see through actions from people is specious however good it may sound. Most people have developed emotional responses that are called “automatic reactivity.” This reactivity is a type of “habit” your brain has formed of reacting automatically to stimuli, such as emotional experiences, in a certain way. It can leave you feeling like you aren’t in control of those reactions. Some other people feel overwhelmed emotionally. Feeling overwhelmed emotionally can be caused by experiencing our emotional reactions as a jumble of feelings and sensory experiences that feel all tangled up. When you find yourself riding the wave of emotion, it’s important to control them and control is in how we react to them. Emotions can be a lot like unruly children in need of attention. Once we don’t control them, we allow them to have a voice.
Here are some common negative reactions to emotions ;
- Sulking : This is a period of time when someone refuses to smile or be pleasant because they are angry about something.A sulk is a reaction to feelings of being rejected where, instead of getting openly angry or talking about the problem, the sulker retaliates with moody silences or monosyllabic replies designed as a punishment. It is closely associated with envy and a desire to destroy the contentment of the other person. At the heart of the problem is the inability to articulate feelings. The sufferer withdraws, and sulking becomes the preferred form of communication.
- Explosion : is a behavioral disorder characterized by explosive outbursts of anger and violence, often to the point of rage, that are disproportionate to the situation at hand (e.g., impulsive screaming triggered by relatively inconsequential events). Impulsive aggression is not premeditated, and is defined by a disproportionate reaction to any provocation, real or perceived. Some individuals have reported affective changes prior to an outburst (e.g., tension , mood changes, energy changes, etc.)
- Taking it in : This involves harboring considerable anger. People in this state are very submissive and withdrawn in self blaming ways. These people become depressed because the anger they feel for others, who have hurt or let them down, is turned inwards. They’ve had to learn to self-blame and monitor themselves very carefully. They keep checking that they’re not going to do something that stirs up the anger of those threatening others. Depressed people with this problem can only slowly come to understand it because it can overwhelm them. Caught up in this difﬁculty, they can become very focused on self-blame and a sense of badness and sin. Depression sometimes is associated with the feeling of having offended God and being pushed away – out of God’s love. This is because depression involves a toning down of our positive emotion systems, leaving us with awful feelings of isolation and disconnection.
However, emotions needs to be controlled and corrected if wrong. Take responsibility for your emotions. It can be easy to get swept up in an emotion and end up reacting in ways that don’t benefit you. If you feel yourself start to spiral into an uncontrollable emotional reaction, take a conscious step back from what’s going on. If you still blame others, quit doing that. Self acceptance is also a key factor. As long as you are a believer, you are accepted in the beloved.Check your perspective too. Learning to become positive in your outlook takes time and practice but it can also enhance your resilience to uncertain or disturbing emotions. You are valuable and don’t treat yourself lesser than that. Don’t birth these unstable emotions into your children, check these out now.