Love is the inherent nature of life, the goal of life and the beginning of life as well. Love knows no limits, no boundaries, and no limitations. It is unconditional, limitless, and always flowing. Love includes keenness to commit, forgive and be forgiven, to engage in and maintain understanding. It asks us to open ourselves up and become vulnerable. Love is acceptance and to accept someone’s love, wholeheartedly, is nearly just as brave. With no guarantees, it takes courage to open one’s heart fully to the gift of love. If you’ve ever accepted love from anyone or given out love, I’ll call you brave. Love is giving. The more we can give ourselves over to love without letting fear interfere, the more gloriously wondrous expressing love would be. A gift is something that is enjoyed twice. First by the giver who revels in the pleasure of giving something special and then also enjoyed by the person who receives the gift. A very special form of giving takes the form of small, personal acts of kindness. Very often it is not money or belongings that people need, it’s the things that can’t be seen, such as advice reassurance, a kind word, compliments or a smile.
The act of giving doesn’t have to be limited to an exchange of presents at Christmas time or Birthdays. You can treat every person you come into contact with as someone who you can give a gift to. You may be a bit sceptical, wondering what exactly do you have to give? Everybody has something of value for another person. It could be a kind word, a simple smile, some appreciation, the sharing of some special knowledge, even a helping hand or a bit of support during a difficult emotional time.
Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned in this world. We weren’t scared when we first learned to love a parent or a friend. Love is our natural state. It was only after rejection that it became tinged with fear. Perfected love is the love of God expressing itself in our love to each other.
1 John 4:18
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
That divine love should take away our fear: “Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has been pleased to give you the kingdom” (Luke 12:32). When you love someone with real practical deeds, you never hear a warning signal that says, “You’re going to get punished for this.” Fear is what you feel when you have done something that ought to be punished. But love is never threatened with punishment. So there is no fear in love.
ATTRIBUTES OF LOVE
- Love is patient: Let’s face it. Running errands, shopping, buying gifts, decorating, planning, cooking—it is time-consuming and somewhat intense. There can be a big temptation, even for believers, to become easily frustrated, irritable and impatient. But, God has called us to love others, and part of displaying that love is being patient in parking lots and store lines, and with those who aren’t as polite as they should be. Your patience will shine the light of Jesus and stand out in a crowd.
With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love.
- Love is kind. Take the opportunity to show an extra measure of kindness to those around you this Christmas. Bless your child’s teachers with a gift or a special breakfast, reach out to those in need in your community through a food bank or by lending a hand in an elderly neighbor’s yard. A small act of kindness goes a long way and gives you the precious chance to be the hands and feet of Jesus to those around you.
- Love does not envy: There may be some great gifts given to those around you this Christmas. Don’t give in to the temptation to envy what others have. Rejoice with them, and thank God for the gifts you’ve been given—whether material or spiritual.
- Love does not boast: If you happen to be the recipient of a wonderful gift, be blessed and enjoy it, but be careful not to boast to others.
- Love is not proud or rude. Do you insist on your own way? When you are at a relative’s home, can people count on you to be a blessing, or have they come to expect criticism and negativity? Be sure your words are edifying only—not critical or harsh. Shine the love of Jesus to everyone around you, and be a light in a dark world!
- Love is not self-seeking: Are you willing to give in to the desires of others now and then? You really wanted to have Christmas at your house this year, but relatives have other ideas. What do you do? Purpose to give preference to others this Christmas, and don’t just show up grudgingly, do so with a warm and cheerful heart.
- Love is not easily angered: Do you get angry in traffic? Or how about when people don’t move as fast as you’d like in the mall and when someone is rude to you at the checkout counter? Instead of letting anger get the best of you, try something different. Determine to remain at peace no matter what. Show love and kindness to others. You never know what they might be going through. A simple act of tenderness may be just what they need.
2 Corinthians 5:14
For the love of Christ constraineth us; because we thus judge, that if one died for all, then were all dead.
- Love keeps no record of wrongs: Supernatural forgiveness. That’s the heart of Christmas, isn’t it? Jesus came to sacrifice Himself and wash all our sins away with His blood. During the season of the greatest act of forgiveness, check your heart and enter into Christmas without a drop of unforgiveness in your heart. If someone wrongs you, determine to forgive them right away.
What can I do to love better?
- Open up: Love shouldn’t be hidden. Love is expressed. God didn’t give us arguments for us to understand his love nor did he just assume we will know he loves us, rather he gave us a real, authentic experience of his love! He showed it. Hiding your feelings or intentions isn’t a good way to love. A big part of love means consciously opening yourself up to your beloved and sharing everything with your loved ones.
Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.
- Be True: Be loyal and faithful to your loved ones. Adopt being in the state of alignment with them. Speak the truth always. Love is unfeigned. A self-sacrificial love that works for the benefit of the loved one. We speak truth in order to build up. Speaking the truth in love is not as much about having a gentle demeanor as it is about the way truth and love go hand-in-hand. Because we love one another, we must speak the truth. Because we know the truth, we must be people characterized by love.
Ephesians 4:15, But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ.
- Give: What is love without giving? Give yourself. Give time, support, gifts, good words to people right away. Lay down everything. There are lots of things to give. Love involves putting in without expecting in return. If you’ve never received unconditional love, it can become hard to then give it out. Love is not how you feel, it is more about how you act. Adapt your love to others. Give unconditionally to yourself.
And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.
- Forgive your loved ones: Love can sometimes be uncomfortable. Learn forgiveness. After you are wronged and the initial wave of emotion has passed, you’re presented with a new challenge and it is to forgive. A lot of people might have transgressed you this year. Do not be bitter towards them. Let the love in your overwhelm your anger or negative emotions towards them. In forgiving the person that you love, you are setting aside your anger and your resentment.
Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
- Appreciate others: Expressing your appreciation for a loved one, friend, or mentor is important. Be grateful or thankful for people you’ve been blessed with. See everyone as valuable. No one should be made inferior because he/she is doing little. Let every little effort your loved ones put into you count. Speak well of them.
- Be compassionate: Compassionate love describes attitudes toward and service for others, motivated by a desire for the good of the other. It includes caring for, valuing, and respecting the person so loved. Empathy cannot be overemphasized; being aware of the suffering of another, coupled with the wish to relieve it. Carry burdens if you can. Share what you have. Help others without ulterior motives. We all need attention—to feel seen, heard, and recognized. Listen with Intention. Be Affectionate. Be Kind with Your Speech.
Finally, if love is not any of the above then it is not enough. Give it more expression.Being loving is the best thing we can do for our own well-being and others. When a man continues to run from his nature, he looses himself. Our nature is love.
1 John 4:16
And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.
When we expand our own ability to be loving, we actually grow our capacity to be loved. It opens us up to new possibilities, while allowing us to feel at home in our own nature(love).
1 John 3:11
For this is the message that ye heard from the beginning, that we should love one another.
It’s Christmas again. Yaaaaaaay!!!! Show love to others. Merry Christmas and happy new year in advance. I love you all.